As we approach Mother’s Day, I want to take a moment to reflect on spirit of this holiday which exists beyond the greeting cards and the Sunday brunches.
My daughter is 7 this year, and I’ve been searching for ways to help this holiday bring lasting and meaningful memories for both of us.
Recently, I attended a spiritual enrichment group that I meet with twice a month. The theme for this week was our grandparents. The group searched for memories of their grandparents as we talked. Some of the stories were heart-warming, others were marked with sadness and loss.
As the meeting progressed, I had the opportunity to reflect on my experiences with my own grandparents, particularly my grandmother. One thing that surfaced was my experience of her being a kindred spirit for me. She was a strong, resilient and loving presence for me. She understood dark moments of sadness, loss, and self-doubt and accepted and empathized with these parts of me.
She also had an unwavering belief in my resilience and wisdom. She lived a year past her son’s (my father’s) death and was the only one of my grandparents to hold my infant daughter. In this moment, I felt she was standing bravely in my father’s place. Her love and guidance meant the world to me.
This Mother’s Day, I want to share my memories and feelings about the brave, committed women who have come before me. Women who were driven by love and resilience. I want my daughter to cherish their legacy as I do. I encourage you to do the same for your children. Here are some ideas on how to accomplish this:
1. Share a special story about your mother, grandmother, or a mother-figure in your life.
2. Take out an old photo album and share your favorite pictures of the women who have
come before you.
3. Start a memory book and begin it with your thoughts on the legacy that was left for you by the women in your life and what it means for you as a mother.
Take time to pause and give the gift of legacy to your children this Mother’s Day. Celebrate your own motherhood and enjoy this special day!
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