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Burnout and the Culture of Impossible Expectations

“No one knows this because it seems like I have it all together, but inside I’m dying.” When you hear people’s deep dark secrets like I do as a therapist, you hear things like this frequently. This is because basically every human I interact with is going through something similar: the profound pressure to do “the right thing” in every area of life, while making it look easy. And expecting it to feel good. It’s the promise and temptation of being one life hack, career goal, or achievement away from perfection. You can be: as slim as a nearly disembodied head with barely a body to hold it up as productive as a super computer as cool and interesting as a celebrity (and employ a staff to pull that off) all while also having a loving relationship and friends. And     . . . read more

The Gift of Good Boundaries

When boundaries are done right, they feel like a gift. When done poorly, they feel like a punishment. There is a lot of confusion about what it means to have boundaries and how exactly to “do” them. This holiday season, let’s do boundaries well. So well, no one even knows you are “doing” them. In that spirit, my gift to you is a simple, three-step action plan to happy, healthy boundaries for the holiday season. Read more…